
You could take a series of courses on body language in communication. I will refer to it here and at greater length in week 3. This post will review some points related to your interactions with native English speakers.
1. RelaxAnxiety that you may have about language use may transfer to your posture, facial expressions, tone of voice, gesticulation (or lack thereof), and engagement in eye contact. Many of you appear fluent enough that any nervousness on your part will not be perceived as anxiety about speaking English, but rather as your being rude.
A relaxed posture; maintenance of good eye contact; a careful tone ( i.e. adjust your tone to the context but avoid sounding haughty, meek, aggressive); and identifiable efforts to be polite will get you further in communication than will perfect grammar or the best choice of words. On the latter point, if you do not already have one or use one--get an English/English dictionary and bookmark several on your web browser.Familiarity with how English defines its own vocabulary and applied practice in using English to define the word you seek will likely take away some anxiety over correct or precise language choice.
2. Watch your breathingSome of you huff and puff a bit under your breath to express frustration, displeasure, and disagreement. Offending your communication partner may be your first concern. Your second may be that the average North American may not pick up on your huffing, i.e. he will not understand that your exhalations communicate your displeasure.
3. Smile moreGenerally, Americans love a smiler. Depending on your culture, an American will expect you to smile a lot more than would one of your countrymen or someone from your region of the world. If you do not smile much, this may be chalked up to your being a dark souled lawyer, rightly serious in his work. However, it may also lead to the perception that you are an unhappy person, snooty, aloof. If these are messages you want to reinforce, carry on. Otherwise, try to work more smiles into your repitoire.
4. Use open body languageUse an open posture, wide gestures, hold those gestures, and occupy space. No matter how nervous, unsure, or unprepared you may be, pretend that you are confident and act accordingly. Few can tell the difference between someone who is confident and someone who just acts that way. Often they appreciate the effect of a confident delivery no matter the speaker's internal conflicts.
5. Yield the floorPay attention to your conversational partner's body language and yield the floor.Some of you will hold the floor until someone interrupts you. Be aware that in formal North American speech contexts, holding the floor is a sign of dominance but also can very easily be perceived as being aggressive and rude. Some contexts and speech acts call for you to hold the floor. A formal presentation is one example. However, in a business meeting context, or in a group discussion, aim to listen more than you speak.
Be aware of turn taking mandates. A group discussion is generally not supposed to be a situation in which the most dominant or fluent speaker lectures the group. Aim to facilitate everyone's participation in the discussion. Realize that your listening skills and your ability to ask the right questions as well as give positive reinforcement to your speaking partners is as valuable as any practice in expressing your thoughts.
Allow for cultural differences. Realize that many North Americans consider it rude to talk over each other. They will not necessarily ever finish each other's sentences. They have trouble focusing on their own expression and yours simultaneously. On the other hand, some Americans will jump in with you and talk over you. However, generally this type of interaction is reserved for informal contexts, e.g. arguments over why Italy is still the world's best soccer team, no matter the recent Euro Cup.
6. Stop using the male gazeThe male gaze refers to a common phenomenon across many world cultures of men staring at women as objects rather than as people. While the
"appreciation" of a woman's beauty is a part of the rationalization behind this behavior, in a North American business context, it may earn you a reputation as being unprofessional, rude, creepy, or someone likely to commit sexual harassment.
7. Arrive to class on time, return from breaks on time, do your homework, turn off your cell phones, do not take calls during class, do not text during class.a. Time
Many North Americans are more concerned with punctuality and accountability for tasks small and large than are members of other cultures. For an American arriving late can be perceived as rude (the unreliable CTA system of Chicago nonwithstanding). In a classroom context, arriving late sends the message to your instructor that you do not value the classroom experience enough to show up on time and likewise lack respect for the instructor. If that has been a goal for some of you, it has been understood.
However, realize that your instructors and your business partners likely are well invested personally in whatever obligation or meeting you have together. For them, your timely arrival assures them that you are on the same page.
b. Do your work
If you do not do your homework, you are not prepared for class activities. This makes you a less effective partner or group member. It may also alienate you from the classroom experience. Strike a balance between your leisure time here and the commitment that you made to this course. To the best of my knowledge, none of you need this class in order to be here legally, i.e. you all would be allowed to spend a month or slightly more as tourists in America. I dare say it is a bit endearing and nerdy that you have chosen, for whatever reason, to spend vacation time studying English in a formal classroom context. Own that commitment and experience and give me your best efforts at your work and your language acquisition practice.
c. No cell phone use during class
There is no reason for your cell phone to be on during class. Likewise, you should take and make all calls and texts before and after class or during breaks. In the event of an emergency, most of you are currently far away from home, and would not be much help to anyone. Ringing cell phones, texting, taking calls during class all communicate that the classroom experience is not important to you.Moreover, they communicate that you do not respect the maintenance of a distraction free learning environment for your peers.